Supporting a Partner with Jealous Feelings
Individual Exercise 1 - Setting your own boundaries
Being in a relationship with a partner who experiences a lot of jealousy can be emotionally draining and difficult to navigate. Your task is twofold: to listen with empathy and support your partner as much as possible, while also taking care of yourself to ensure you have the energy to be there for them.
These exercises are designed to help you support your partner effectively while maintaining your own emotional well-being.
Take care of yourself - set your own boundaries
Supporting a jealous partner can be emotionally draining. To sustain this support, you must prioritize your own well-being by setting boundaries and building your own energy.
Step 1: Recognize your boundaries
Use a Self-Reflection Worksheet to create three lists:
Green Line: Things you’re fully comfortable with. ex. “I can offer verbal reassurance when my partner feels insecure.”
Yellow Line: Areas of uncertainty or potential discomfort. ex. “I can actively listen for 15 minutes, but I need a break afterward.”
Red Line: Non-negotiable boundaries. ex. “I need us to discuss feelings calmly, without accusations or shouting.”
Step 2: Plan your responses
Prepare statements for when your boundaries are tested. For instance:
If your partner becomes accusatory, you might say,
